What is fear?

”Fear is the prison of the heart.”

~ Anonymous

Why fear? What is it? Where is the fear coming from?

It is known that we are born with two normal fears: fear of falling and fear of noise. The rest of our fears can be considered abnormal because they come from lack of confidence, lack of trust, and lots of burdens due to overthinking.

We have all suffered from it and as it is known, fear could be your biggest enemy if you accept it. It is the feeling of not being good enough, of not having power enough, of not being worthy enough. It can be fear of failure, fear of not being loved, fear of what other people might think, fear of being too ”small” to talk. It is that feeling you could not be ‘I am, that I am’.

We are taught lots of fears when we start to be ”educated”. Look at children, they do not have fear of anything. A little child trust some people and don’t others. They do not have experience in our world and do not have diplomas but they know. How? They just feel it. They also feel what they can do and they know they could do a lot of things. We usually say they are too small, are not educated, they need to grow up to know what life – fear is. Why? It is because we have been educated in that way. Who made that rule? Who has the right to decide the way I have to be educated? Who knows what is good and/or what is bad for me than myself?  Who is saying that a certain way is the right way to BE? For me, for you, for others it is not. There are many people thinking in that way but because we do not respect the general frame of thinking, we can be isolated, punished, treated as disabled. And we have again fears. So, as we see, fear is afraid of fear.

Fear is distortion of reality we use to limit our life and is in our imagination only. In that way, it is that false reality we are creating it in our mind and let it become our true reality. We are ”educated” to have lots of fears, we do not believe in positivity, in kindness, in beauty, in what is good in this world, we do not believe in us. We are trapped of living with the results of other people thinking. Believing in what is bad, ugly, in negativity it is what we have in our reality. Moreover, you can see fear as a weapon built inside you. The more you believe fears and use them as excuses for what you do not do, the more your life will be filled with insecurity, hate, and anger.

Generally, fear is the opposite of confidence. It is a voice inside us that is a really deep and convincing voice. When you focus on that voice, you become more and more deeply involved in. It is the voice we have been educated to listen to because it is empowered with what is showed outside, in the external reality we have been taught to see it and listen to. It is what power has been created for, what media show us, what religion tell us, what gold and money fight is for. Fear is taking varied routes, but all fears go deeply inside yourself and you feel as if you are a prisoner, a prisoner of your own fears.


”You could imagine each fear as a stone, which are piled up throughout your life, and one day become as high as a mountain. You started adding them in your childhood, when your parents were telling you: you cannot do it yourself, you are not allowed to do it, it is a shame to do it, and be careful. Growing up, your school, society, other people’s words and ideas, each added more stones to your fear mountain. That mountain has a different height for each of us; some are higher and some are lower.

On the other side of your fear mountain is the mountain of your self-esteem. The Fear Mountain is bigger and your self-esteem mountain is smaller, but when you start to face and accept a fear, it is transformed in a new stone, a self-esteem stone. The lower your fear mountain becomes, the higher your self-esteem mountain becomes.” (1)

 When realizing that, you start asking yourself what happened. How did I get here? How am I going to escape from this? Is there any way of getting out of this? Moreover, fear does not let you trust yourself, follow your dreams, and does not let you think of the beauty of your creation, beauty of your life.

Steve Jobs said “have the courage to follow your heart and intuition”. We all have a heart and intuition but we have not been taught to follow them. Let your feelings expand, and that freedom of your feelings changes your inside and also changes your world picture. From that moment, when realizing how powerful you can be without fears, they cannot bring you to your knees because you have the power to bring your fears to their knees. You feel afraid because of the way society educated you in every single way, but think of you, I and each of us as brave human beings because we have learned to conquer fear in our everyday life from that day when we did our first step, said our first word. We can choose to free our heart and follow it.

“Fear is the virtue of slaves; but the heart that loveth is willing.”

~ Longfellow

I am, that I am!

Love & Light, 


The texts are always based on my clients’ experiences and my own’s ones. I do not claim what I share to be the ultimate truth. I encourage everyone to only take what resonates to find your own truth. Permission is given to share or blog any materials as long as the text message is posted with no changes, or altered in any way and author’s credit, copyright and website links are included as the source of the messages. Thank you.